Skip to main content

C'est la Vie: Life... Offline

For those of us in the blog-osphere, there is a delicate balance to be achieved. How do you spend "enough, but not too much" time online? You want to have a web presence, but real-life relationships demand your time. All of this jargon is kind of silly too. What is "real life" anyway? Is it the things we do and the people we choose to interact with? More and more our relationships don't necessarily take place face-to-face and I would argue that doesn't make them any less valuable.

The whole thing is an interesting problem. Online dating has proved, in some cases, that relationships can in fact be started via the internet. For myself, I feel the online world is just an extension of existing relationships. If I didn't know you before, chances are our relationship isn't going very deep in the near future. And just as soon as I wrote that last sentence it occurred to me how many people could argue that point. Perhaps some of your most vital friendships or working relationships were born from an online (maybe even chance) meeting.

So maybe it's just my own personal struggle... but I doubt I can be alone. "Life" happens in my house, in my neighborhood, my city. There are people to meet for coffee. There are conversations to be had at the grocery store or at school pick-ups. For heaven's sake there are children crying for a snack or because of a dirty diaper even as you are trying to read this! There are daily responsibilities that cannot be accomplished from behind a computer screen.

I'm beginning to understand why we all feel so busy. Twenty years ago if we had told someone we had just "posted a tweet" they would have thought we were from an alien planet. You can't make up stuff like that! (It almost sounds a little naughty without a frame of reference.) We still have all of the day-in and day-out responsibilities our own mothers and grandmothers had, but now we are trying to add relationships with people all over the country and globe to the mix. (This is more than hand-writing an occasional letter. We are more connected than ever.)  And I love it, but life offline takes time. The people in my immediate proximity have to take preference simply because they are here. As soon as I take more time for online relationships, I have by default begun to neglect my offline relationships.

I think I'm talking myself in circles, so it's time to log off for now. How do you feel?? How much time is too much to be online? What are online priorities and what are the big time wasters?

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Give Thanks: Part 4

KEEP READING FOR A GREAT SCENTSY GIVEAWAY! There is so much to be thankful for, it really is hard to decide what will make these next few posts... but today is an ode to my husband. If there is one thing he loves, it's great smells. Although great smells come from great cooking, they also come from great candles. Now with kids around candles can feel a little risky, but then came Scentsy . This is a "flameless" candle which is actually kind of a throw back to the scented wax warmers that used a candle. No candles here, just plug in the warmer and the small light bulb does all the work. I'm a fan of the nightlight sized warmers, but the larger Scentsy warmers are quite lovely. Browse the entire Holiday Collection to find the one perfect for your home or start thinking about gift giving - the combinations are endless! And look at this festive warmer of the month (10% off): But now we need to talk about fragrance! Silver Bells is the fragrance of the month (als

Summer Plan 2012

Is anyone else asking themselves what happened to the last 3 months?? (Maybe you're wondering what happened to the last 3 years or just the last 3 days... at any rate you know how I feel, mom.) Today was my kids' last day of school for the year. I'm sitting on the precipice of another summer. This was my first year of "freedom" - two kids in school full time. It felt good. But as predicted I packed every possible moment with housework, volunteering, writing, and working at my "real job" (ie. the one I actually get paid to do). And it makes me wonder, how will I ever scale back and just enjoy the lazy days of summer?? How can I embark on a summer of fun and adventure without feeling like I'm staring into the abyss? I've done an unofficial survey of other moms I know and there's a mix of emotions. Some are ecstatic to have kids at home this summer; others are dreading it. I have a funny feeling the first group isn't telling the whole tr

Mom Spot: Progressive Pioneer

Here is another blog I've come across in recent weeks. She has gorgeous pictures and her post yesterday was truly fantastic. "Maine is pretty rainy in the spring.  And I lived in Oregon for awhile and it defines rainy.  So, a little rain rarely puts me in a gray mood.  In fact, this rainy, rainy spring we've been having here in Utah has actually made me feel quite cheerful!  Each rainy day has felt like something of a celebration." Click HERE to read the entire post - you have to see the photographs! You'll also find all kinds of topics on sustainable and simple living. Enjoy!